A friend just sent an article saying Los Angeles was going to stay at home until August.
I can’t help but feel emotional at a time like this. I know everyone is going through tough stuff so I don’t want this to come across as whining or a pity party or anything, it’s just the facts.
I bought tickets so we could go home to visit my parents (SFO) and see my nephew (LAX) for his 4th birthday this year in July. I told myself that if they were still sheltering in place we would just wait till November to see my parents since one of my best friends from high school is getting married and we also have plane tickets purchased for that trip as well.
I don’t think anyone would consider me a ‘homebody’ by any means. I haven’t lived in the same city as my parents since I turned 18 and moved out of the house to go to college a few months later. I have visited home or during a transition for a max of 2-3 weeks at a time. However, the longest I have ever gone without seeing my parents was the 8 months during my dietetic internship when I moved out to Virginia and did the accelerated internship at Virginia State University.
The internship lasted 7.5 months and I drove east and since my plan was to return to California right when I finished to get a job and work I stayed and explored Washington DC with a family that I went to church with when I was in college during Christmas break. We didn’t really get any other breaks long enough for me to fly across the county so I returned home after it was over. I ended up just visiting home for 2 weeks to see my family and friends since I had gotten a job at one of the hospitals I interned at in Petersburg, Virginia.
I had a new plan. I would stay and get some experience as a clinical dietitian and then get a job and move home.
I planned it all out. I worked while working on my master’s degree and got experience. I also taught Pilates and group exercise classes at the local YMCA and saved money by living with a family.
My plan again was to quit my job on my birthday and move back home. I moved all my things across the county and was home again for just a few weeks before I moved again… and again.
The last time I moved was January 2011 when I drove back across the country to Tennessee and I still had plans to move back home.
The common thread in all of this is I always had intended to move back home. I still wish I was closer to my parents although I do enjoy the lack of traffic here and having a yard my kids can play in.
We generally visit home once a quarter (every 3-4 months) so my kids can see my parents/other family and friends back home and I can see them too.
We last went to visit in January and figured it would be okay to go in July for my nephew’s birthday (5.5 months) since we were going twice at the end of the year for the wedding (November) and Christmas so we would still make it out 4 times this year.
So, if they are still staying at home/sheltering in place through July we will stay here and the next time we will get out there would be November (hopefully by then they will be working on opening up in phases!).
I suppose I am mostly concerned with all of this and feel emotional about it because my dad is close to 90 and mom is older and has a compromised immune system as well. I don’t want to be the reason they end up getting a virus that could potentially be fatal.
FaceTime just isn’t the same. My parents aren’t great at holding the iPad so that we can even see their faces and it usually ends up being forehead time or top of your head time.
I am praying. I know that God is in control through all of this and pray that He will give us all peace knowing our plans have been foiled this year. Everyone has lost something during this pandemic. Whether it was plans, dreams, travels, parties, graduations, celebrations or anything social – we all have lost something. I was disappointed we couldn’t go to London in April when we have been planning on going and have had tickets for almost a year. (Still waiting to see if we can access the money/credit we are supposed to have from those tickets.)
Life is different. God is bigger than Coronavirus. God can do all things. I keep reminding myself of my life verse – Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails. Proverbs 19:21. That is my life verse because I know that He is good and even though all my plans have fallen through regarding moving home for over a decade and even though we didn’t get to go on multiple trips the last few months or do most of the things we had planned on doing, God is still good and He will work all things for His purpose.